“The rod of rebuke gives wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.” Proverbs 19:15
How often have we witnessed children in store type settings misbehaving and throwing temper tantrums. They scream at their parents, demanding that they receive whatsoever they demand. And the parents stand there and may offer other suggestions to try to pacify their little tyrant, but they definitely take no effort to lovingly, with any degree of sternness, correct the child.
In European parliaments they have even made it illegal for a parent to discipline their child. They have legislated discipline away from the home. There’s no rod of correction as the bible dictates.
A parent who allows the little brat to continue in his selfish ways is only ten years or less away from having a totally rebellious, non-functioning individual who will become a total nightmare. And be sure that the public schools nor any judicial court can fix them.
Face it, all of us have seen and known people who in their 20’s to their 70’s or older, are just mean, self-satisfying jerks. They have grown up thinking that the world revolves around them. Hmmmm….I wonder where all of that began? I would say that for the most part it began because they grew up in a home that lacked discipline.
In Hebrews 12:8 we read that a child who does not receive chastening from the father is in all essence illegitimate. The KJV renders an even stronger translation. What it is saying is that the absence of discipline implies that you are not a son (child) of the father at all.
Sadly, a whole generation of young people are growing up without fathers. Oh, they may live in the house with the other members of the family, but as far as exercising their fathering responsibilities, they are, can we say, out to lunch. And if the father does not assume the biblical mandate of parenting in loving discipline, then the family unit will be one of complete defiance and disorder. God will not wink His eye at such sin.
This is a letter that a father wrote to his son that was published in the Ann Landers column many years ago. “Dear son. As long as you live under this roof you will follow the rules. In our house we don’t have a democracy. I did not campaign to be your father. You did not vote for me. We are father and son by the grace of God. I consider it a privilege and accept the responsibility. In accepting it I have the obligation of the role I have as a father. I am not your pal. The age difference makes such a relationship impossible. We can share many things, but you must remember that I am your father. This is a hundred times more meaningful than being a pal. You will do as I say as long as you live in this house. You are not to disobey me because whatever I ask you to do is motivated by love. This may be hard for you to understand at times but the rule holds. You will understand perfectly when you have a son of your own. Until then…trust me.” Love, Dad
Our God has established His rules for a wholesome family too. We find that the Word of God has much to say about disciplining our children in love with balanced kindness when they are young. To ignore such wisdom is to invite disaster and eventual cultural implosion.
“He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him promptly.” Proverbs 13:24